Envy is a nasty thing. It seduces you, teases you, taunts that someone else has what you want. What you need to be happy. And it’s so easy to give yourself over to that siren song, because we can’t control how we feel… right?
Right. And wrong.
Emotions are reactions, and they’re often involuntary. But that doesn’t mean we can’t control how we react to our feelings. Emotions can either drain or energize, and we have the power to turn negative feelings into positive momentum.
- The first step is recognizing Envy for what it is and acknowledging that it’s okay to feel that way.
- The next is to look deeper at what you’re feeling. What exactly are you envious of? Why? Keep asking yourself what and why until you uncover short, concise answers that resonate.
- Then, translate those negatives—those desires—into goals. How will you get what you want? Set goals that are clear, measurable, and achievable within a short time frame. Set yourself up for success, and hold yourself accountable.
- When you reach your micro-goals, set new ones… and keep on going.
The world of romance publishing is tough to break into and even tougher to make a comfortable living from. There’s always going to be someone who has more launch sales, lands a contract faster, or just seems to have it all and get it easy.
The appearance of success and the reality of it are often far different, so give yourself a moment to process and think about where you are, where you want to go, and how you want to get there. Then set your goals and focus on yourself.
We can choose to waste our energy on Envy or invest it in Growth.
Which will get you to your goals faster?